Marriage has a very simple meaning, get married, love each other, live life together, raise children and settle in their home. This method has been going on for centuries. But while today's fast-paced life has affected many other things, this strong relationship has not been immune to its effects. Now this relationship has become so complicated that in order to save the marriage and make it a success, no one can deny that the marital relationship is the closest relationship of life and every couple wants to secure this relationship. But this relationship is also considered the most delicate, which can be broken by the slightest injury. It is true that couples are formed in the heavens, but it is also a fact that the maintenance of this relationship falls on the earth. There are many reasons why marriages fail, some of which we are responsible for, and we don't even realize how foolish we are going to be. If these idiots are realized in advance, many problems will not arise. Let's take a look at some of these idiots. You also see that you yourself are not committing any of these stupid things.
Foolishness No. 1: In love many things are understood without saying
Fact: Understand the words of the mind without saying, such a partner is found only in fiction or movies. The fact is that even after openly expressing desires, needs, expectations, it is not necessary for them to understand everything the way you want to explain it. Even if he understands, he will fulfill it, there is no guarantee of that. That's why it's important to tell your partner openly about your feelings, desires and needs. And keep in mind the fact that he will not understand anything without telling. From what you have said, he can understand what he expects of you in this relationship. One thing to remember is that no matter what the relationship is, communication is the solution to all problems and grievances. Fool No. 2: Both should work equally.
Fact: This may be true in Western countries, but in our case it is just a fantasy and nothing more. In fact, marriage is not always a two-way affair. Sometimes one partner gives 80% while the other can only give 20%. There can be many reasons for this. For example, illness, long office hours, mental and physical fatigue, etc. The wife should work in the office all day and come early in the evening to take care of the kitchen and present everything she needs on time. Such expectations are not good for a happy marital relationship. If the wife works in the office like the husband, then the husband should also come home and help her. But if the housewife is not a working woman, then neither should the husband be expected to help her with the housework. If he does it on his own, it is not wrong, but you cannot force him to do so. Working together promotes love.
Fool No. 3: Spouse should be told every problem
Fact: Difficulties are difficult to fight alone, while the solution to any problem can be easily found together. Even in marriage, husband and wife should inform each other about their problems and worries. It also lightens the load. And sometimes there is a solution to the problem. But in this case, a little caution is needed. Before you share any worries or problems with your spouse, think about whether it is necessary to tell him or her. Fool No. 4: After marriage, every need is met.
Fact: Marriage is a beacon of God, not a religion. Some people think that after marriage they can get everything they wanted. For example, Marwiyah thinks that after marriage they will get food on time. Clothes will be ironed without saying. The house will be clean. The wife will say yes to every order while the women think that the husband will give them time. Many couples get frustrated in the early days of their marriage because of these misunderstandings. Learn to face the reality that if she is a wife she may get sick and sometimes she may have to go somewhere suddenly which may cause delay in ironing of food and clothes. Understand these things. In the same way, a man is not only a husband, he is also someone's brother, son and friend. He has to make time for these people too. Then there are also office engagements. Also, check his financial status to see if he can afford sightseeing and shopping every week or every month. Don't target it for no reason.
Fool No. 5: Mistakes can be corrected by telling your partner
Fact: Be sure to point out mistakes, but stay away from blame. Ideal partners are only in movies and fiction. No human being is without flaws. However, positive criticism can correct the mistakes of others but criticism should not be for the sake of criticism. Communication solves many problems. Don't forget your partner's goodness while criticizing. Point to them when criticizing. Because that's the best way to criticize. The goal is not to humiliate your partner but to correct his mistakes or behavior.
Stupidity No. 6: Husbands and wives must have the same views
Fact: Thoughts may or may not be the same, but they must be respected by each other. Do But that doesn't happen in every home. Thoughts and likes and dislikes differ from earth to sky, but this does not mean that the matter should be disputed and the matter should reach to the point of quarrel. We should not hurt each other with our thoughts and ideas.
Fool No. 7: Husbands and wives should be each other's best friends
Fact: This is a big mistake. Today's young generation in particular wants a partner who lives like a friend. There must be a spirit of friendship between husband and wife, but friendship alone does not work in this relationship. Friendship has less sense of responsibility while marriage is also a name of great responsibility. In friendship you can make fun of your friend in front of everyone. You can make fun of him. However, if you do this as a married person, then understand that the relationship is in danger and the biggest thing in this friendship is "no sorry". The principle of "nonthenics" applies. But as a couple, sorry and thank you are two very valuable words that will be used as many times as you want. Love will awaken more and more.
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